A Curated Life
There’s a strange phenomenon going on. I’ve encountered several people who have developed a strange condition I call “Facebook Envy.” There’s a tendency to feel less about oneself based upon the images posted by friends and sometimes, complete strangers. It drives me absolutely nuts to hear people tormenting themselves over what amounts to a curated life (coined by my brilliant friend K. Neycha Herford).
Here’s the thing. If you suffer from this kind of envy, you are making a story to string together pictures from an incomplete representation. You are filling in the blanks without knowing true context.
What you won’t see pictures of:
- Empty bank accounts
- Extramarital affairs
- Problem children
- Overextended credit
- Bad habits/addictions
- Failing health
- Dying dreams
You cannot compete against a distortion of reality. (Tweet this.)
If you are immersed in the details of someone else’s life, take that energy and invest it in your own. Do the work. Comparison gets you nowhere. Create your own experience. One that gets you excited about where you are and where you’re headed. When you’re thrilled with your own life, you won’t be so quick to covet.
To cure jealousy is to see it for what it is: dissatisfaction with self. ~Joan Didion